Since everyone has shared their thoughts and opinions on marriage I will share my views. To me marriage is a sacred union between two individuals who have decided to make a lifetime commitment to one another. I definitely would like to get married one day to the one I feel is my soul-mate. Ideally marriage should come before children and after the individuals have completed their educational portfolio. As we all know things don’t always happen in this order, but I do believe these things can occur in a different sequence and the marriage can be just as successful. I agree that marriage is not taken as seriously as it once was for several reasons. One reason is the progressive liberation of women. Women have become more independent through education among other things and are attempting to close the gap in earnings for performing the same jobs. Historically it may not have been financially feasible for women to say “I’m out of here I can do bad all by myself”. So they had no choice but to “stay”. Nowadays more and more women are becoming the bread winner and aren’t afraid to strut their stuff. In my opinion the subservient days for women as a whole are near the end. Just listen to the music for instance: Destiny’s Child’s “Independent Women”
All the women who independent
Throw your hands up at me
All the honeys who makin' money
Throw your hands up at me, baby
All the mamas who profit dollas
Throw your hands up at me
All the ladies who truly feel me
Throw your hands up at me
Fantasia‘s “I’m Doin’ Me”
I’m doin me, I’ve finally found
I’d rather be by myself, I’m doin’ me
Beyonce’s “Upgrade U”
I’m gonna help you build up your account & Anything you cop I'll split the bill
Nicki Minaj “Monster” verse
You could be the King but watch the Queen conquer
Women have evolved into bolder, stronger, richer, more independent people. This has to have some impact on the institution of marriage. Women no longer want to walk behind their men they want to walk next to him. Which in my opinion will make the union stronger overall. Men too have come to recognize, value, and desire the independent woman as well.
Jamie Foxx “She Got Her Own” verse
I love her cause she got her own
She don't need mine, so she leave mine alone
There ain't nothing that's more sexy
Than a girl that want but don't need me
Lil Boosie’s “Independent” verse
She got her own house
Drive her own whip
Range Rover all white like her toe tips
She got a pretty smile
Smell real good
The only time she need a mane for the good jugg
They buy the bar too
They superstars too
They be like you ain’t got no money
Take your broke tail home
Another reason marriages are failing or not occurring at all is because commitment is almost non-existent in our society. So many things are replaceable in our lives that we often times forget the value of committing and act as thought people are disposable too. Social networking too has an impact on relationships in general. With the world becoming smaller each day this gives all of us access to more people outside of our established relationships and may have an adverse affect on relationships. Social networking alone has been credited for negatively affecting marriages. A 2010 survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) discovered that four out of five lawyers reported an increasing number of divorce cases which cited evidence originating from social networking sites in the past five years. Two-thirds of the lawyers surveyed stated that Facebook was the "primary source" of evidence in divorce proceedings, while MySpace with comprised 15% and Twitter with 5%. 
As the dynamics of our society change we must “upgrade” what a marriage is and re-define our roles within a marriage. We should not base our marriages and roles on what society says we should do. Sometimes the man is a better cook than the woman; sometimes the woman brings more money in. What’s important is that we realize and value what qualities the other person brings to the relationship/marriage. If both males and females can come to terms that marriage is a PARTNERSHIP and not a one one-sided dominant relationship things will start to look up.
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I really like this one. Its a good closure to the first part. It like the first part rose the concerns, brought through opnions, laying it all on the table and this part settled it all. =) good work!
I agree with u. I also feel that in regards to marriage, women are simultaneously gaining power and losing some of the respect that men used to have for us. yeah a lot of us are feelin like we're independent and don't "need" a man, which is cool, but at the same time a lot of men feel that it's ok to just get women pregnant w/out making the commitment of marriage. sometimes multiple women. there have been so many times where i've heard a guy say he was looking for a baby-momma and not a wife. like if he really liked a girl, he thought of her more in terms of whether or not she could have his kids, not the ultimate title or lifelong role of his wife. thats super wack to me. and there are a lot of women who are accepting that role. for example doesn't Lebron have more than one kid by his high school sweetheart w/out being married to her? yeah, that wouldn't be me. we'd both be tryin to get a ring lol
I believe marriage is a touchy subject. Times have changed and there is no specific age to set a date. There are a lot of people that aren't ready for marriage and rush into it then rush right out. Men particularly don't really look to marriage as women do. For men marriage is the beginning of the end and would rather think about it as it comes. So what I'm trying to say is everybody gets ready for this event in their own time. Women typically tend to be ready way sooner than men.
Did all the comments on this blog get deleted???
Yes idk what happened Dumebi...I noticed a few days ago.
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