Jumping the Broom...Speak Now or Forever Hold Your Peace!-Part 1
The release of T.D. Jakes “Jumping the Broom” caused me to ponder on the issue of marriage among us Generation X’ers or whatever they want to call us. To those of us who fall between the ages 21-35 years I must raise the question of whether or not marriage is on our to-do list. Is marriage still important to us the way that it was to our grandparents and parents? Most if not all of us know that a marriage involves emotions, money, crazy family members, etc. So what is that makes us want to tie the knot and what is it that makes others say to hell with marriage I’m doin me? At what point in our lives should we get married nowadays? After finishing high school, college, graduate school? Before children or after children? Before sex or after sex? Or does it really matter if we get married before or after these events take place?
If you believe it is important that we get married, why? And what are the positive aspects of sealing the deal? If you don’t think marriage is essential please share your thoughts as well. What are the negative aspects of marriage? This is an op to let it all hang out on this topic of marriage. Ladies it’s time we let the fellas know how we really feel about marriage. And Gents don’t feel left out we want know what you all think too…Now I’ma let yall know what I think about marriage in part 2.
If you believe it is important that we get married, why? And what are the positive aspects of sealing the deal? If you don’t think marriage is essential please share your thoughts as well. What are the negative aspects of marriage? This is an op to let it all hang out on this topic of marriage. Ladies it’s time we let the fellas know how we really feel about marriage. And Gents don’t feel left out we want know what you all think too…Now I’ma let yall know what I think about marriage in part 2.
7 comments:
I grew up in a married home. I want to be able to do that for my child(ren) one day also. There is no greater feeling than to grow old with the one u love and raise a family we are all meant to be with someone! Times have change where something that was once sacred amongst two people is now given away so freely. When a person feels like they are in love they want to do what feels right - right now! It's not a bad thing, but people should just want more for themselves. I'm just saying.
well you know i'm a romantic so I am ALL for marriage. I think when two people are in love there's no greater thing than to make that kind of commitment before God and everyone you care about. Love is a beautiful thing. I know that marriage definitely comes w/ struggles and hard times but I definitely think it's worth it. In my opinion it should come after college and a good job and before kids. In a perfect world it would come before sex too but idk how realistic that is for most people these days. In our society, unfortunately, marriage doesn't seem to have the same place that it once did. so many people are having babies out of wedlock and getting divorced 2 or 3 times that i don't think it's taken as seriously as it should be. but i'm trying to be one of those old married couples that still hold hands after being married for 50 years lol.
So I think I'm starting to become more of a romantic too because I am all for the love and marriage and big happy family stuff. But I do believe it has its time in life and maybe should be aimed for after at least college graduation but hey who can alter God's plans? I say it has its time because I really didn't start appreciating family and marriage until I was in a position of being alone and really felt that aloneness and that was after graduation. That was when I was in a position of having to live an adult life and make major decisions and all that stuff and you know what? It's better to have someone to share it with. The word (Bible) even states that it is not good for man (or woman) to be alone. Thus the creation of a help-meet. So hey God knew what he was doing so why not stick to the original plan?
I am not a Generation X, but I want to give my views. While marriage may not last the beautiful 50 years or until death do us part for everybody, it still serves some important purposes for individuals and families. First, the act of marriage signifies for each of you, other family members, friends, and co-workers. I am committed to the relationship and I am part of a partnership. This is especially important for family and friend to recognize your partnership as a commitment. Second, let's talk legal everything you buy together, the home you live in, the car you drive, even the children you have together and the right to make a life or death decision all comes into question and will likely fall to the next of kin in the event one of you is ill. Third, All the stuff Kiya, Caryn and Zuri just said, Love, romance togetherness, God's plan and tradition. To build a strong community we must have strong families, ideally with children who can look to both parents and feel secure with the knowledge they are loved.
Marriage is a beautiful thing and something I'm looking forward to! I was ready to get married at 20, no lie, but I'm glad I didn't. Not because I wasn't ready, but she wasn't. When it comes marriage, the couple as to be on the same page and committed to being a team the rest of their lives. There's no timeouts or hall passes. When you find that person, forget about getting everything out your system and worry about securing what you got. I here to many people talk about being young and wanting to have fun. That entire statement is grounded in the belief that marriage isn't fun. Yeah the honeymoon does not last forever, and hard times do come about, but knowing you have someone there for you through those hard times is a feeling I wouldn't trade in for the world. I'm definitely looking forward to marriage. Looking forward to having some body I can chill with, and most importantly, build with.
Interesting views folks I can't wait to hear more!
Marriage is something I take seriously but then again in my culture/where I was born, marriage is taken much more seriously than it is here in the States. My generation is nearly hopeless when it comes to the issue of marriage. Nothing means anything to people anymore, women dont respect themselves, men dont respect themselves nor the women around them, sex is worthless just 'make it rain trick' right? Things just arent real anymore especially since women and not recognized as a woman/female/lady, instead i guess our birth certificates came with the names 'hoe' and 'bitch'. Women cant be trusted and men can not be trusted especially with the social networking sites such as facebook and twitter on the rise. We live behind a computer in cyberspace meaning the difference between reality and a damn computer cant be told. So basically marriage is nothing close to what it should be. These current generations are horrible 'not shit' nothing is nearly as valuable as it should be and always used to be. Pathetic.
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