Ugly Black Women: An Endless Game of Dodge-ball

When I initially heard the news of the “scientific proof” that black women were physically less attractive than other races I was baffled and considered doing a blog on such a controversial topic. Then I stopped myself and asked what could come from doing a blog on this topic. Since I am a black woman I took the article personal and was a bit upset that someone would even try to prove something so ridiculous with science. Not only is this an excellent demonstration of the abuse of “science” but just outright racist.  I didn’t want to dedicate my energy to something that I took so personally because I knew I would not be able to write a blog in an unbiased manner. However per my cousin Michelle’s request and my best friend Caryn’s seconding it I’ve decided to write about this. Obviously I have few issues with the declaration that black women are less attractive than other races. My first issue is that in 2011 someone would waste their time trying to prove something that can’t be proven. Like grandma always says “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. Yes there are other’s who have tried to find some scientific formula for beauty, i.e. the symmetry theory, but based on race? Absolutely ludicrous. My other issue with this article is that it is just another attempt to oppress and already oppressed people. As if black women aren’t demeaned enough within our own community. I think the author of such nonsense is 100% dead wrong, I mean it’s almost laughable how stupid he made himself look in front of the world. My third issue is the reaction that I’ve seen to this article thus far.

 I like to think of these types attacks like am endless game of dodge ball. The low blows will never stop coming…EVER! And life is too short to entertain every shot that is taken at the “black woman”. You have to keep dodging them and let them roll off your back. Some things are so ridiculous they’re not even worth addressing. We have to keep it pushing and hold our heads high like we’ve been doing. And always remember “Can’t nobody take our pride, and can’t nobody hold us down…oh no we got to keep on moving” (In my Mase Voice). Please share your thoughts on this issue ladies. 

Memorial Day Weekend

I meant to post this blog several days ago, but better late than never right? Memorial day weekend is here and we can finnaly wear white without violating fashion principles! It’s time to eat, good, party and sleep in on Monday for the first time since presidents day, New Years, or Christmas depending on where you work. Memorial day is one of my favorite holidays because it marks the end of winter (officially) and the beginning of summer. I mean spring doesn’t really count for anything if you live in the Midwest we kinda jump from winter to summer. And who doesn’t love the summer? Only a crazy person! It’s grilling season officially and who can’t get enough of grilling? A crazy person. Lol. Anyway I’m too excited about my weekend and I’m sure I’m not the only one. Aside from the festivities we all need to take a moment to remember those who have left us behind. With that being said there needs to be no shenanigans this weekend so that we’re not the one’s being remembered next memorial day.

There are several events going on this weekend so no one should find themselves bored sitting in the house this weekend. 

I wish everyone a spectacular Memorial Day weekend and remember to eat good, party hard, and sleep late. 

You Used To Be Here Now You're Gone...Nair: Klansman Trump Be Gone

The recent announcement by Donald Trump that he will not be running for president has me overly ecstatic. I am so glad he came to his senses before he was able to corrupt and brainwash the masses to become the 45^th president. I applaud whoever is responsible for bringing him back to reality and current times when racism is no longer an acceptable political platform. His approach of attacking Obama to make himself look good was way off, weak and ridiculous to say the least. As if his attempt to delegitimize his presidency based on citizenship wasn’t enough he often criticized his political tactics.

 Then speaking on the president’s handling of Lybia Trump was quoted as saying, “If you look at what he’s doing in Libya, which is a total disaster, nobody even knows what’s going on in Libya,” Trump affirmed.  “If you look at what’s happening with gasoline prices where he said he has no control over prices, which he does.  If he gets on the phone or gets off his basketball court or whatever he is doing at the time.” If I remember correctly Trump never suggested that Bush get off his gold course when OUR Country was under attack. But Obama needs to get off his basketball court to deal with another country’s' problems. It seems to me his real issue is the president of the United States playing basketball in the first place...and to be good. Haha. I'm sure he's like damn he's smart and a baller. Hahaha. I’m pretty sure the president doesn’t just chill at the court all day instead of running the country. Aside from Trump’s Obama attacks, he’s made other racially insensitive remarks. When asked about Hilary’s presidential race he shared his thoughts saying, “You’ll hear a political reporter go on and say it had nothing to do with race.   But how come she had such a tiny piece of the vote?  And you know, it’s a very sad thing,” Trump then said. “I have a great relationship with the Blacks.  I’ve always had a great relationship with the Blacks.  But unfortunately, it seems that, you know, the numbers you cite are very, very frightening numbers.” Why does some scary word always have to be used when discussing “The Blacks”? Just hilarious I guess if you say something enough it’ll be true? Or at least believable to whomever it is you’re trying to convince. And “The Blacks”? That’s an interesting reference.  Aside from his thoughtless comments there are at least three other reasons he shouldn't be president.

1. His dreadful hairstyle, all that money and his hair looks like shit. 
2. How many times has he been married? He can’t even commit to one woman. How is he going to commit to an entire country which includes “The Blacks.” lol. 
3. He’s just too damn rich to relate to the needs of the average American.

As a former celebrity apprentice fan (especially this season) I hate to have to pull my support from Klansman Trump. And in the words of Nicki Minaj to Trump I say “You used the be here but now you gone Nair…cuz Obama did it on yo ass.

Internet Life Does NOT Equal Real Life

Each month, day, hour, or minute depending on how severe their problem is, people sign-in for a dose of facecrack while simultaneously fulfilling their twit-diction. The trend of social networking addictions has detached some people from reality. The news of Rihanna re-following Chris “The Woman Beater” Brown on Twitter has reiterated how seriously people take social networking. Some fans have unleashed their fury because of RiRi’s move. And where else other than the internet did they release their anger and concern because they are pissed at RiRi for “go[ing] back to him”. Rihanna's response: "It's f*cking Twitter, not the altar! Calm down." She later apologized for her remarks...Umm but anyway last time I checked social networking is not a true depiction of real life relationships. Yes he beat her like she stole something and will always be wrong for that. And perhaps it is a little strange to follow someone on any social network who whooped your ass. However this so-called incident further proves that people take friending, unfriending, following, and un-following way too seriously. Just because someone adds you doesn’t even mean they like you. There are those people who have imaginary relationships with people on the internet…cracks me up every time. Others might be adding you to stalk you and fall asleep to your pics, or talk shit about your life, or maybe they genuinely like you, but who really knows what people’s intentions are for adding you? As far as kicking people out of your social life I mean how upset can you be when someone gives you the internet boot, it takes hardly any effort. After all I’m sure all of us have clicked someone else out of our lives.  So next time you notice someone has removed you from their friends list or un-followed you remember don’t get your feeling hurt and go off confronting people. “IT’S JUST NOT THAT SERIOUS”.

Friends Don't Post Drunken Pics of Friends on Facebook

Last night while out I noticed a young lady who was drunk out of her mind, falling over, Kodak vagina moments, spilling her drink on people  she was just a mess. Now I’m not one to judge so my first question wasn’t “why is she so drunk” but rather “where the hell are her friends”? Ladies showing your vagina or panties at the club when it's not in your job description #NotCool.

Now since I went to Ohio University, which often ranks as the number two party school in the nation, these type of drunken occurrences come as no shock to me. For those of you who have ever had a drank as my friend Nikki says, not a drink, but a drank, you may be able to relate. Either you’ve been the friend who fell victim to Hen-Dog, Tequila, or disgusting Vodka whichever is your poison. Or you’ve been silly ass person posing as a friend who dressed your friend up and put tampons in their mouth then took pics.

 When your friend decides to get chocolate, vanilla, or strawberry wasted you’re supposed to look out for them, if they’re really your friend. Then tell them about themselves the next morning. 

Unlike the movie Hangover the pictures may make their digital footprint before you can destroy them. And the phenomenon of social networking only makes things worse. Drankers must beware of how much they drink and who they get drunk around, because your “friends” may post pictures on the internet before you can finish saying “CHEESE”. You see what happened to these guys. 

Jumping the Broom...Speak Now or Forever Hold Your Peace!-Part 2

Since everyone has shared their thoughts and opinions on marriage I will share my views. To me marriage is a sacred union between two individuals who have decided to make a lifetime commitment to one another. I definitely would like to get married one day to the one I feel is my soul-mate. Ideally marriage should come before children and after the individuals have completed their educational portfolio. As we all know things don’t always happen in this order, but I do believe these things can occur in a different sequence and the marriage can be just as successful. I agree that marriage is not taken as seriously as it once was for several reasons. One reason is the progressive liberation of women. Women have become more independent through education among other things and are attempting to close the gap in earnings for performing the same jobs. Historically it may not have been financially feasible for women to say “I’m out of here I can do bad all by myself”. So they had no choice but to “stay”. Nowadays more and more women are becoming the bread winner and aren’t afraid to strut their stuff. In my opinion the subservient days for women as a whole are near the end. Just listen to the music for instance: 

Destiny’s Child’s “Independent Women”
All the women who independent
Throw your hands up at me
All the honeys who makin' money
Throw your hands up at me, baby
All the mamas who profit dollas
Throw your hands up at me
All the ladies who truly feel me
Throw your hands up at me
Fantasia‘s “I’m Doin’ Me”
I’m doin me, I’ve finally found
I’d rather be by myself, I’m doin’ me

Beyonce’s “Upgrade U”
I’m gonna help you build up your account & Anything you cop I'll split the bill

Nicki Minaj “Monster” verse
You could be the King but watch the Queen conquer

Women have evolved into bolder, stronger, richer, more independent people. This has to have some impact on the institution of marriage. Women no longer want to walk behind their men they want to walk next to him. Which in my opinion will make the union stronger overall. Men too have come to recognize, value, and desire the independent woman as well.

Jamie Foxx “She Got Her Own” verse
I love her cause she got her own
She don't need mine, so she leave mine alone
There ain't nothing that's more sexy
Than a girl that want but don't need me

Lil Boosie’s “Independent” verse
She got her own house
Drive her own whip
Range Rover all white like her toe tips
She got a pretty smile
Smell real good
The only time she need a mane for the good jugg
They buy the bar too
They superstars too
They be like you ain’t got no money
Take your broke tail home

Another reason marriages are failing or not occurring at all is because commitment is almost non-existent in our society. So many things are replaceable in our lives that we often times forget the value of committing and act as thought people are disposable too. Social networking too has an impact on relationships in general. With the world becoming smaller each day this gives all of us access to more people outside of our established relationships and may have an adverse affect on relationships. Social networking alone has been credited for negatively affecting marriages. A 2010 survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) discovered that four out of five lawyers reported an increasing number of divorce cases which cited evidence originating from social networking sites in the past five years. Two-thirds of the lawyers surveyed stated that Facebook was the "primary source" of evidence in divorce proceedings, while MySpace with comprised 15% and Twitter with 5%. 

As the dynamics of our society change we must “upgrade” what a marriage is and re-define our roles within a marriage. We should not base our marriages and roles on what society says we should do. Sometimes the man is a better cook than the woman; sometimes the woman brings more money in. What’s important is that we realize and value what qualities the other person brings to the relationship/marriage. If both males and females can come to terms that marriage is a PARTNERSHIP and not a one one-sided dominant relationship things will start to look up.

Jumping the Broom...Speak Now or Forever Hold Your Peace!-Part 1

The release of T.D. Jakes “Jumping the Broom” caused me to ponder on the issue of marriage among us Generation X’ers or whatever they want to call us. To those of us who fall between the ages 21-35 years I must raise the question of whether or not marriage is on our to-do list. Is marriage still important to us the way that it was to our grandparents and parents?  Most if not all of us know that a marriage involves emotions, money, crazy family members, etc. So what is that makes us want to tie the knot and what is it that makes others say to hell with marriage I’m doin me? At what point in our lives should we get married nowadays? After finishing high school, college, graduate school? Before children or after children? Before sex or after sex? Or does it really matter if we get married before or after these events take place?

 If you believe it is important that we get married, why? And what are the positive aspects of sealing the deal? If you don’t think marriage is essential please share your thoughts as well. What are the negative aspects of marriage?  This is an op to let it all hang out on this topic of marriage. Ladies it’s time we let the fellas know how we really feel about marriage.  And Gents don’t feel left out we want know what you all think too…Now I’ma let yall know what I think about marriage in part 2.

Camel Toes & Ass Cheeks: The Abuse of Leggings

Over the past few years leggings and jeggings have become a staple in the wardrobe of today’s girls. At one point they were worn under skirts (terrible fashion mistake) made by many including myself. The use and abuse of leggings has become more widespread for several reasons. One of the pros of purchasing and wearing leggings is that you don’t have to sacrifice fashion for comfort. There is an unlimited number of colors, patterns, textures, designs, there's a pair of leggings for everyone.  Another positive to leggings is that they don’t put a hurting on our pockets, and we all know saving money is always a good thing. On the negative side leggings/jeggings are being abused like never before. Ass cheeks and camel toes are everywhere you turn. Wal-Mart, the mall, the club, school, the grocery store, work, you name the location and someone there is wearing leggings inappropriately. Now don’t get me wrong I have a couple pairs of leggings myself, but there are a few things we should all keep in mind when slipping on those ultra-comfortable economically friendly leggings. The first and most important thing to remember is that opacity of your leggings is imperative. 

In other words people should not be able to see through the leggings and there is a difference between leggings and pantyhose. The second most common offense has to be the disgusting advertisement of ass cheeks and camel toes. Although this guy and some other guys out there don't seem to have a problem with it and actually like it remember "THE CAMEL TOE IS NOT COOL"! Now since I've pointed out the problem I think it’s only fair that I offer some solutions. For the ass cheeks I suggest wearing tunic tops, and for the camel toes you can invest in a Braza Camel-Not Toe Cover for only $10.95 or visit CamelToe Solution. Now take a look at the pics and tell me if the pros outweigh the cons of abusing leggings? And are there more pros/cons that I missed to wearing leggings?